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Why Your Life Isn’t Going the Way You Think It Should

Written by: Kathy Best, Intuitive Living Expert, Certified Nutrition Specialist, & Spiritual Life Coach, January 26, 2021

I remember as a teenager and young adult thinking that life was one long series of unpleasant events, people were all a**holes, and I could never get ahead no matter how hard I worked…..I found it difficult to impossible to make real friendships because people were always letting me down or stabbing me in the back. If it wasn’t for bad luck I wouldn’t have any luck and no one could see the value and dedication I had to offer. And you know what? I was right.

It was true that I was experiencing a lot of unpleasant people, and experiences, but it wasn’t because life was against me or all people were a**holes. It was because as a young child a series of fearful, painful events made such a negative impression on me that I made some unconscious, erroneous conclusions about life and people in general. As a young child I had no frame of reference or maturity to process my experiences in an objective, healthy manner, so I did what most young children do and I jumped to some creatively unbeneficial, inaccurate assumptions. I believed that the world was a very unsafe place and you could not trust anyone, and I was unlovable. These thoughts, fears, and beliefs created the foundation for my future experiences and expectations and being the powerful creator that all human beings are, I created and attracted more people and experiences that reaffirmed my fears and beliefs about life and people.    

Whenever we experience unpleasantness in our lives we can choose view it as an obstacle or a challenge. A challenge is a test or experiment and an obstacle is a problem or barrier. We can allow these experiences to define and limit us or we can allow them to be catalysts that help us develop new skills, abilities, and perspectives and find new improved ways to navigate life. We all experience our most profound growth through the challenges and obstacles that bring us to our knees, but it doesn’t have to be that way. What we resist persists.

We are all superconscious beings having a temporary physical experience, of which we have all had many. Our super-consciousness is a part of our soul and our soul is a part of the universal I AM Presence or Spirit. The soul is that part of us that moves from lifetime to lifetime as the eternal witness and record keeper of events. Your soul has the ability to divide into twelve different aspects or dimensions. One of those aspects is you – the super-consciousness have a human experience. The super-consciousness and the soul both exist in the quantum field of all that is, was, and ever will be. The quantum field exists within us, all around us, in all dimensions, and all realms. It is everywhere and nowhere. Our minds have a very limited and limiting understanding of the quantum field and how to connect with it, so we must use our super-consciousness to access this state of being. The practice of accessing the quantum field brings us one step closer to enlightenment, or remembering the truth of our eternal, infinite, oneness with all that is and nothingness. In essence you are The Creator, an expression of The Creator, and the created.

So instead of dismissing what is being written here, see if you can tune into the energy field underlying the written words using your heart consciousness. It’s understandable to be suspicious or cautious about accepting anything blindly, so use your heart-center and intuition to feel if this resonates with your higher self. Your unbiased, unobstructed feelings will lead you to your knowingness. Whereas the mind will keep you stuck in old patterns of 3-dimesional fear, lack, and limitation. Your mind is designed to operate in a dense, 3-dimesional, physical reality, so we must practice allowing our heart and mind to connect to the unlimited understanding of our super conscious self. This is a difficult challenge for us because we have spent lifetimes reaffirming that we are only a mind and body.

The soul separates into twelve different aspects, one of which is the human self and the other aspects are having simultaneous experiences in alternate realms and dimensions of existence. In physical expression your consciousness in unaware of your other aspects because in 3 dimensional reality you experience duality or equal opposites and intentional separation. Your perceived separation from Spirit enables you to entertain a limited sense of control over your world. And so for lifetimes we have returned to this planet to experience living a physical existence unaware of the larger than life Self we truly are, or the immense creative power we all command. We’ve been having this experience for so long that we’ve buried our true self in the depths of our unconscious mind. Our ego or safety mechanism fears the loss of power and control if we discover our true self, so it devises all sorts of traps, snares, and scenarios to distract, dissuade, and prevent us from looking for our truth.

Slowly over lifetimes of experiences we are awaking to the idea that there has to be something more to life and to us beyond the suffering, pain, poverty, war, success at all costs, sacrifice of mind and body for other people’s gain, or losing so others can win. We have been climbing our way out of the dense vibrations of selfish, superficial, unaware, disconnected, winner take all, only the strong survive, better than, attitudes, beliefs, patterns, and behaviors. The morphic vibrational patterns of humanity and this planet have now a new level that allowed something new and improved to come in. We are no longer locked into repeating these same negative patterns over and over again. We now have access, support, and momentum to rewrite the story of humanity as a whole into one of compassion, collaboration, respect, generosity, mutual benefit, kindness, and conscious co-creation for the good of all. We are now opening ourselves to a deeper understanding of humanity, our impact on the world, and our ability to shift our experience at any moment with our thoughts, feelings, and intentions.

Each one of us, without exception, create our reality in the quantum field. Your mind-body structure is an electromagnetic being. Your thoughts are electrical impulses that can be measured both within and without your body. They radiate an energy that extends outside of your body. Your heart has a magnetic energy that can also be measured inside and outside of the body. Science has yet to determine how far they radiate because the instruments in use are limited in their range. Your thoughts and emotions are radiating out into the quantum field. (The quantum field is everywhere. It encompasses your body and extends out into the cosmos for infinity. This field is like a repository for every thought, feeling, emotion, and event that has every occurred or ever will occur, because in reality linear time is an illusion used to maintain the fabric of physical life in this 3-dimesional world.) So whatever you are thinking and feeling is sending energy into the field, but also to your environment and the people and animals in range of your energetic field. The quantum field responds by reflecting back to you what you’re focusing your mind on and giving us situations which allow us to continue to feel. Meanwhile your heart is drawing to you more experiences which reflect your most consistent emotional states or that represent your most emotionally charged thoughts and experiences.

Most people argue that they are not creating their experiences or reality, but denial does not change the fact that you are the only person that can change your experiences and reality by changing your dominant thoughts and emotional states. For example, if we choose to think about something that makes us angry we can feel the anger build up within us, which leads to more angry thoughts, more angry feelings and an eventual conscious or unconscious expression of that anger. All the while those thoughts and feeling are creating electrical and magnetic energy waves that are radiating out into the quantum field and the people and environment around us. The quantum field then responds to our energy patterns by giving us situations that allow us to continue to feel angry. Have you noticed when you’re angry everything starts to go wrong? The strength and depth of our emotional charge is what determines how quickly the field reflects back to us. Anger, hate, shame, guilt, and fear are the strongest negative emotional patterns and heartfelt gratitude, peace, joy, and love, are the strongest positive emotional patterns. The feedback from the field can take minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, or years depending on our level of focus, intention, frequency, and emotional charge. If you spend hours of each day or many days a week feeling negative emotions expect many negative experiences to come your way.

When we start to pay conscious attention to our behaviors and the people & environment around us we can feel it when someone is angry, sad, happy, or excited and we can detect energy remnants in our environment as well. Have you ever walked into a building or room and get goosebumps or suddenly feel unwell or emotional for no apparent reason? This happens with the people around us as well. Our mood can be directly affected by the people around us if we don’t shield ourselves or make conscious decisions about what we let into our energy field. 

As a young adult I was blessed with a mother who started questioning the way life worked, what she had been taught, and if there was more to us and life than we understood. She began finding answers that helped her shift her experiences, behaviors, and beliefs and then she started sharing some of her newfound wisdom and insights with me. Of course I rejected it all at first. I thought it was woowoo, Pollyanna garbage, but a part of me was desperate for change so I started investigating what she was studying. I was never one to just buy into something. I always had to test it, before I chose to accept it as valid or worthwhile. The more I read and tested the more interested I became in learning more and I started investigating all things esoteric, spiritual, holistic, and unconventional. That’s when things started to shift. It wasn’t anything instant or obvious at first, but small subtle changes began taking place in me, my environment, and my experiences. It required a lot of questioning, frustration, irritation, study, practice, and constant testing and comparing incremental results, but the evidence became clear.

Then I started running into obstacles and roadblocks which almost made me decide to throw it all away. I knew there was something to this and I was on the cusp of drastic, positive transformation so I dug down deep within to understand why things seemed to be falling back into the old patterns and routines. What I came to understand was twofold. First, anytime we start making drastic changes in our mental, emotional, and physical patterns we create waves in the quantum field which pushes all of our energetic resonance up to this point to the surface to be purified and transmuted. So all of my old stagnant, limiting, shameful, painful, resentful, angry beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors were being magnified so that I could see them from a more objective perspective and heal or release the patterns and replace or reintegrate them with healthier patterns.

Secondly, I recognized that in order to truly live a happy, fulfilling life of vibrant health, genuine prosperity, and loving relationships I needed to walk the talk in all aspects of my life. I couldn’t spend half of my time practicing unconditional love, compassion, gratitude, forgiveness, sanctity of life and then act with contempt for people that didn’t do what I thought they should or didn’t see things the way I saw them. I couldn’t do things out of integrity, like using my work environment or supplies for personal benefit unless I made a request to my employer to do so and it was approved. I couldn’t walk around with an attitude if people didn’t respond or treat me the way I felt entitled to be treated. I couldn’t continue to kill insects that terrified or disgusted me, because I felt they didn’t deserve anything better. I couldn’t lie to people about my social or work activities to impress or avoid disapproval or rejection. I couldn’t complement someone with my words while I was criticizing them with my thoughts. I had to be authentic, genuine, honest, sincere, and undisturbed by other people’s opinions, behaviors, attitudes, and beliefs if I truly wanted my life to reflect the highest level of authentic good. I had to be at peace inside no matter what was going on outside. That was the biggest hurdle for me and I still don’t maintain inner peace 24/7, but I do stay there more often than not, and I find it much easier to return to peace when I do let myself get caught up in the drama and fear mongering going on these days.

Your intuition is a doorway to your super-consciousness. It is your inner guidance system from your higher consciousness to your physical self. Prayer, meditation, Qui gong, dance, yoga, toning, mantras, sound, breath work, gratitude, self-love practices, forgiveness, compassion, affirmations, and acting and speaking with integrity are all ways to reconnect to your intuition and your higher self. All of these practices raise your consciousness and your vibration and open you up to the prosperity and grace that life holds for each and every person. You then become a channel for guidance and opportunities that you never imagined. Instead of a constant struggle forcing you forward into discord, downfall and dis-ease, Life becomes a flowing movement of illuminated steps coming in to focus with everything needed coming together at the exact right moment. We are all here to use our unique genius and innate gifts to fulfill our highest potential in service to our greatest good and the greatest good of all life. When you tap into this wellspring of power you begin making choices that keep you in alignment with your authentic self, the light you were born to be, and all manner of cosmic support is able to assist you on your path to freedom, fortune, and fulfillment.

Kathy Best is an Intuitive Living Expert, Angel Communicator, Reiki Master, Spiritual Life Coach, and Certified Nutritional Specialist. She left a 16 year career in accounting to pursue her passion in nutrition, wellness, and spiritual development. With over 17 years of research, study, and experience, Kathy has overcome numerous addictions, healed multiple illnesses, met and married the man of her dreams, and continues to create a life of magic & miracles using her approach to wellness and living. She combines her experience and knowledge in nutritional therapy, spiritual development, Reiki, Quantum Touch, Ho’Oponopono, EFT, and intuitive & angelic guidance into individualized programs that help her clients reclaim their body, mind, spirit balance, develop their innate gifts, and tap into their unique genius so they can redefine themselves and recreate their lives into the happy, vibrant, fulfilling masterpieces they were meant to be.

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