by: Kathy Best, Intuitive Living Expert and Life Coach, written January 8, 2018, updated November 8, 2020
This is something I’ve discussed previously, but it needs to be repeated again. Your words have a tremendous amount of power. I see so many people spending a lot of time using their voice and their words ineffectively or in opposition to their goals. I’ve been guilty of this myself in the past. Your words not only express your thoughts and feelings, they are a reflection of your beliefs about yourself and life. They tell people what type of person you are, how trustworthy you are, what you stand for, what you accept as your truth, and they can either support your endeavors or defeat them.
Taken from a biblical perspective, the world began with the word of God and it was good. So if we are created in the image and likeness of God, would it not be safe to say that our words have the power to create, just as God’s words do? Almost every religion exalts the power and benefit of spoken prayer, but it’s not just prayer that has power.
Throughout history sages, saints, and great leaders have used the power of words to elicit emotions, enlist us in causes, and to shape the course of humanity. From Lao Tsu, Hippocrates, Socrates, Moses, Jesus, and Abraham, to Napoleon, Winston Churchill, Albert Einstein, Gandhi, John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., and Nelson Mandela, we should be well aware that beliefs are shaped by words. Every individual has that same ability within us to provoke change and to incite ourselves into action toward the improved quality of our lives.
Here is a quote from Dr. Andrew Newberg from his book, Words Can Change Your Brain, “Language shapes our behavior and each word we use is imbued with multitudes of personal meaning. The right words spoken in the right way can bring us love, money, and respect, while the wrong words—or even the right words spoken in the wrong way — can lead a country to war. We must carefully orchestrate our speech if we want to achieve our goals and bring our dreams to fruition.”
The tone and words people around us use with us can create fear, anger, and pain or produce loving, happy, healing effects. People we respect, trust, or admire can inspire and influence us to commits acts of violence or acts of kindness with their words and attitude. Just look at what atrocities Hitler was able to accomplish using words and language based on fear and distrust. Gandhi unified millions to achieve political and social progress in India using his voice and words of peace and love.
Tony Robbins, the empowerment guru, recognizes the power of words to shape your life. “For the past 40 years I’ve had the privilege of working with more than 50 million people worldwide and I’ve observed firsthand the power of changing just one key word in communicating with someone and noted how it instantly changes the way people feel – and how they behave. And I can tell you that simply by changing your habitual vocabulary – the words you consistently use to describe emotions – you can instantaneously change how you think, how you feel, and how you live. This is the power of what I call Transformational Vocabulary – consciously using your words to improve and change your life. ” Tony Robbins – Change Your Words, Change Your Life.
He tested his theory on himself and many of his clients and determined that you can change your life, either for better or for worse and shape your decisions and your behavior by shifting your emotional responses. The tool he discovered most useful for rapid change was consciously selecting the words you speak to express your feelings. This is how you transform customary reactions into better experiences. His “transformation vocabulary” approach gives individuals the power to change their experiences by changing the words they use to describe their most negative or positive feelings, thereby reducing or increasing their intensity and impact on you mentally and physically.
Let’s look at it from a scientific perspective. Psychology Today published an article titled: Scientists Find That a Single Word Can Alter Perceptions (Language has the power to make the invisible appear real.) The article referenced a study released on August 26, 2013 which confirmed that language was capable of reshaping our awareness and beliefs about the world we see. Another study, released simultaneously, found that one’s temperament is what determines whether your happier and more optimistic, or frequently unhappy and more pessimistic.
In another study called, “Language Can Boost Otherwise Unseen Objects Into Visual Awareness,” researchers from the University of Wisconsin-Madison confirmed the power of words to change perceptions. Their results were published in the August 2013 journal, Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.
“Perceptual systems do the best they can with inherently ambiguous inputs by putting them in context of what we know, what we expect,” says Professor of psychology at UW-Madison, Gary Lupyan. “… Language is a powerful tool for shaping perceptual systems, acting as a top-down signal to perceptual processes. In the case of vision, what we consciously perceive seems to be deeply shaped by our knowledge and expectations.”
Words create reality. Both the internal and external dialogue you attach to every situation you perceive or experience makes it a reality in your mind. The personal nature of reality can become problematic and lead to failure if you are predisposed to pessimistic attitudes.
You can also use words to reshape your perceptions and experiences. Every part of your brain works in synchronicity to process and interpret stimuli from the external world to create your ‘reality’. You can use the decision-making function of your prefrontal cortex to send affirmative messages to your subconscious, where key memories are shaped and stored, to create an optimistic view of the world.
Our optimistic expectations and perceptions can be altered with a single word like “no,” sending us into a negative tailspin. The word “yes” acts like a natural green light that indicates “go,” while “no” represents a big red stop sign. As Henry Ford said, “If you think you can, you’re right. And if you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Scientist and healer, Dr. Masaru Emoto gave the world physical proof that our thoughts, intentions, emotions, and words alter our physical environment. His renowned research with water and rice demonstrated how words, emotions, and intentions influence things in our environment, showing the immense power we have over our world. “HADO (vibrations) creates words. Words are the vibrations of nature. Therefore, beautiful words create beautiful nature. Ugly words create ugly nature. This is the root of the universe.” – Dr. Masaru Emoto
The self-talk you use habitually creates your reality and influences your future. It really has more to do with the intention and emotions behind the words. As an intuitive living expert and an empathic life coach I use positive affirmations in my personal and professional life. I’ve become increasingly aware of the negative impact pessimistic statements and attitudes have on my energy, perceptions, behavior, and the people around me.
The next time you find yourself stressed or challenged in life try talking to yourself with compassion and encouragement. It may take some time and effort to silence the inner critic, but every time you do it you’re reinforcing new habits, opening yourself up to better outcomes, and tapping into your unlimited potential for good. Taking this approach to problems in relationships can produce amazing results. Thoughts and words help to create a self-fulfilling prophecy on a biological and subatomic level.
Here are some phrases you can use to begin rewriting your life story
Kathy Best left a 16 year career in accounting to pursue her passion in nutrition, wellness, and spiritual development. She’s an intuitive living expert, certified holistic nutrition & wellness specialist, angel communicator, life coach, and relationship consultant with over 16 years of research, study, and experience. She’s overcome numerous addictions, healed multiple illnesses, met and married the man of her dreams, and continues to create a life of magic & miracles using her approach to wellness and living. She combines her 16 years of experience and knowledge in nutritional therapy, spiritual development, Reiki, Quantum Touch, Ho’Oponopono, EFT, angelic guidance, and personal development coaching into individualized programs that help her clients recover their emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual balance, develop their divine gifts, redefine themselves, and recreate their lives into the happy, vibrant, fulfilling masterpieces they were meant to be.