by: Kathy Best March 11, 2020
Gregg Braden is an internationally renowned, five-time New York Times best-selling author, scientist, researcher, educator, and lecturer. He is a pioneer and visionary in bridging science, spirituality, and human potential.
From around 150 BCE until AD 70 there existed a small Jewish sect, called The Essenes. The Essenes were a group that left Jerusalem, it seems, in protest against the way the Temple was being run. They were a separatist sect that considered itself the true form of their religion. So they went out into the desert to prepare the way of the Lord, following the commands of the prophet Isaiah, as they interpreted them. The Essenes had been in existence for about a hundred years in Jesus’ time. One of the many pieces of wisdom they left us was a powerful analysis of human relationships. They defined seven categories of relationship, which are called the Seven Essene Mirrors. Theyused the term mirror, because our inner reality is mirrored to us in the actions, the choices, the behaviors, and the language of the people around us during every moment of our lives.
The First Essene Mirror
The first Essene mirror of human relationships is that of our presence in the present moment. This mirror represents what we direct to the ones closest to us, on a regular basis. Do we feel anger, fear, anxiety, resentment, happiness, appreciation, compassion? When this mirror is active we are surrounded by individuals and models of behavior that reflect back to us the feelings, emotions, thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors we are consciously or subconsciously emanating at each moment in our daily life. When we recognize the reflection of this first mirror it can often be a catalyst of change in the way we interact with everyone around us.
The Second Essene Mirror
The second mirror is similar, but more subtle, in its reflection than the first. This mirror tells us about the judgments we hold about ourselves and about others in each moment. These are often models of behavior that were forced upon us during childhood. If you find yourself surrounded by people who demonstrate patterns of behavior that trigger feelings of frustration, anger, or resentment and you are conscious enough to know that this is not what you are expressing or emitting in the moment, then they may be showing you what you are judging in that moment. Discerning whether this is the case may require some deep, honest, compassionate self-inquiry. If we discount or ignore the subtle reflections which are usually show repeatedly in our life, they eventually become more obvious in an attempt to initiate our observation, awareness, and mastery over them. When you reconcile the pattern or judgment within the healing that occurs creates a ripple effect in every area of your life.
The Third Essene Mirror
This mirror reflects certain sensations in the presence of others. When we look into someone else’s eyes and feel something magical or familiar, like an electrical charge or goosebumps. We may not even know the person and yet we may feel we want to spend as much time as possible with this person. The wisdom of this mirror’s reflection reveals that during the course of our life we knowingly or unconsciously have lost, given away, or had taken from us part of ourselves, in order to survive, fit in, feel safe, get ahead, etc. This third mirror of human relation becomes easier to recognize when we understand our attraction to people who embody the things we have lost – things we are seeking to make us feel whole or complete again. Our body may actually have a physiological response to that and we will recognize it as a magnetic attraction to certain individuals.
The Fourth Essene Mirror
This mirror reflects patterns of compulsive behavior that may ultimately dictate the reorganization of our lives to accommodate our unhealthy behaviors. We can learn to identify certain behaviors, we’ve develop over time, that become so important to us we are willing to sacrifice almost everything to keep them. This includes addictions to drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, danger, control, money, food, power, drama, order, cleanliness, and so much more. When we learn to recognize our compulsive behaviors and addictions we discover that we have given away, little by little, the things we hold most dear to us. When we find ourselves in the presence of this pattern of behavior we begin to understand that the pattern did not occur instantly, it unfolded gradually and it can be recognized and addressed at any time before it is taken to the extreme of losing everything.
The Fifth Essene Mirror
This mirror is perhaps the most powerful in that it reflects back to us why we live the kind of life we live. This mirror relates to our parents’ influence in our lives. Through this mirror we are asked to entertain the possibility that perhaps the actions of our parents toward us are mirroring our beliefs and expectations of the relationship between ourselves and that of our Higher Power, Heavenly Father and Mother, or Creator. Both the sacred masculine and the sacred feminine aspects of our Creator are represented by our parents. Through this parent/child relationship we witness our parents showing us our beliefs and expectations of the divine relationship we have with Source. If we find ourselves being judged or criticized by our parents there is a high probability that our parents are mirroring our own belief and perceptions that we are not worthy or not valued. This mirror allows you to see more clearly why we live life in a certain way. Through our relationship with our parents we can recognize and question our beliefs and expectations about who and what we are.
The Sixth Essene Mirror
This mirror was called “dark night of the soul,” by the Essenes but is not as threatening as it sounds. With this mirror we are reminded that life and nature have a penchant for balance. It takes an extremely skillful master to disrupt the balance in our lives. This mirror offers us the opportunity to lose everything we’ve held dear in our lives, to see ourselves in the presence of that naked nothingness, and to find the power and strength to return from the abyss whole and unscathed. This is when we see ourselves in a new light and recognize our highest levels of mastery. The greatest challenges and difficulties in our lives are only presented to us after we have mastered each tool necessary for overcoming the challenge with grace and ease. We will never find ourselves in situations that require us to demonstrate levels of mastery beyond our ability. From this perspective our greatest struggles provide us the opportunity to demonstrate our current level of mastery rather than being seen as tests that require us to pass or fail in life. Through this mirror, we can see ourselves laid bare without the emotional charge around all of the paradigms we’ve surrounded ourselves with that we think protect us. Through this mirror we have the opportunity to see ourselves as the masters we truly are realize that the process of life can be trusted and we can also trust ourselves in life.
The Seventh Essene Mirror
This mirror invites us to allow for the possibility that, regardless of its outcome, each life experience is perfect in its nature – allowing for perfection in our imperfections. This is the subtlest and often the most difficult mirror to face and accept. Regardless of whether we attain our highest aspirations which have been set by others, we are requested to view our endeavors in life without comparing them to any external standard or reference. The only way we can view ourselves in failure or success is through the lens of comparison to others. What is it that we hold ourselves accountable to and how do we measure our success? With this mirror we are invited to allow for the possibility that each aspect of our life – our physical, academic, personal, and professional achievements are perfect as they stand. We will see that they are through this mirror recognizing that they can only be judged as less than or more than when compared to something or someone outside ourselves. We are asked to choose only our self as the reference for our success.